Women are Choosing to get Paid Less so they can have More Time to be Mothers

Posted by PITHOCRATES - June 16th, 2013

Week in Review

If you listen to some politicians there is a war on women.  Especially in the workplace.  Where evil business owners pay women less than they pay men.  At least that’s what the data aggregate tells us.  That business owners are not only greedy but sexist.  But there appears to be more to the unequal pay between men and women than the data aggregate shows (see Let’s Not Forget, Many Working Moms Want To Work Less by Erika Christakis posted 6/12/2013 on Time Ideas).

It’s almost become a cliché to note that women are still under-earning compared to men in the workforce. But maybe this reality shouldn’t keep surprising us. The recent headlines miss an important part of the work-life balance story: plenty of working mothers are earning less than men because they want the sort of jobs and working arrangements which indeed pay less…

The benefits of part-time work are substantial. Parents can be wage earners and role models without, literally, losing sleep. They can preserve most of their professional identity and work skills but still provide support to a wider group of dependents than would be possible with a full-time schedule, and without going insane in the process…

It’s true that the trend toward part-time, benefit-free employment can be financially ruinous to individual workers. One fifth of the country’s jobs are part-time, and many are low-skilled, dead end positions. But it’s easy to overlook how unrewarding full-time employment can be for many people, too – especially when the researchers and reporters and pundits who write about workforce trends tend to have fascinating, flexible jobs with decent pay.

We should stop limiting what women and men value by insisting that everyone has the same work aspirations. Some of us don’t want to spend the most productive and precious years of our lives trapped at the water cooler with our ‘work spouses,’ and we’re willing to pay the price.

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.  Makes Jane a dull girl, too, as it turns out.  Apparently mothers want to spend time being a mother.  Oh, how the left must hate this.  What with their birth control, abortion and morning after pills.  They want to see every woman childless and working fulltime.  Preferably taking a job away from a man.  Earning a big fat paycheck.  And paying a lot of income taxes.  Perhaps the true reason the left wants women in careers.  Stay-at-home mothers pay no income taxes.  That’s the whole drive behind state-funded childcare.  To get women back into the workforce as quickly as possible.  So they can resume paying income taxes.  Which is why the left demonizes conservatives.  And the 1950s family.  The Donna Reeds and June Cleavers.  Who were happy to spend time raising their children.  The very thought of which makes the left want to collectively vomit.

Motherhood is not something to shun.  To disparage.  Or to attack.  Women aren’t less of a woman for wanting to spend more time with their family.  Instead of shipping their kids off to childcare so they can work fulltime.  Because one day they’ll stop and notice that their kids are no longer kids.  But going off to college.  And they’ll wonder where did the time go.  As well as their childhoods.  Wondering where they were when their kids grew up so fast.  Then they’ll look at the big house.  The two new cars.  The nice things in their home.  And the empty rooms where their children once played.  Then ask themselves, was it worth it?

A lot of women are saying “no.”  It’s not worth it.  So they’re taking part-time jobs so they can spend more time with their kids.  Which is why in the aggregate businesses are paying women less than men.  Because women chose jobs that pay less.  So they can spend time doing something more important.  And more fulfilling.  Being a mother.  And God bless them for it.

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FUNDAMENTAL TRUTH #72: “Moms are a lot like CEOs. Only with more responsibility, longer hours and less pay.” -Old Pithy

Posted by PITHOCRATES - June 28th, 2011

Thinking and Deciding

Boy, do people like to demonize CEOs.  I mean, they really hate them.  These chief executive officers.  Overpaid and underworked.  And then there are all those stock options.  Making them bazillionaires.  By increasing the value of the company to shareholders.  Without a whit of concern for the little guy on the factory floor doing the work.  It just isn’t fair.  Sitting in their plush offices.  Flying in their private planes.  Staying in 5-star hotels.  Living in mansions while vacationing on some island paradise that they might in fact own.  Living champagne and caviar lives.  For doing what?

Actually, for doing quite a lot.  Mostly thinking.  And deciding.  Making decisions that will impact every employee of the company.  Now.  And years into the future.  Decisions that will determine if there is even a future.  For a corporation is like a ship.  It is large.  Complex.  And has momentum.  It can’t turn on a dime.  One decision today could steer that ship into open waters for clear sailing.  Or into an iceberg. 

The world is a changing place.  Nothing is static.  Including the economy.  And consumer spending.  For the consumer can be a fickle person.  We know what they’re buying today.  But no one knows what they’ll be buying tomorrow.  And that’s the problem CEOs face.  The things they’re making today will sell tomorrow.  Or later.  In fact, factories they build today will make things that will sell years later.  So the decision to build that factory had better been a good one.  Based on some good market research.  Objective analysis.  With no personal prejudices involved.  Such as laughing at new innovation.  Saying there’s no way it will replace the current industry standard.  Such as a phone company not getting in to the cellular business because everyone will always have a landline into their house.  In fact, they’ll have a few.  One for their phone.  One for their fax machine.  And one for their dial-up modem.  “And what could ever change that?” said the fat-cat phone executive while chomping on a cigar.  Shortly before the board of directors fired him.

Pay not Commensurate with Responsibilities

Moms are lot like CEOs.  They, too, have to look long-term.  And it starts with choosing a husband.  When they are ready to settle down and raise a family.  And they’re not going to waste their time with men who don’t want to settle down.  Like Beyoncé says, “if you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it” (Single Ladies).  It’s no longer about dating for fun.  It’s now about finding a life partner.  And women will choose carefully.  They’re looking for someone with a good job.  Someone who is responsible.  Someone they can trust.  Someone who is healthy and will sire healthy children.  Someone who is strong and self-confident.  Who can be both a provider and protector.  Perhaps someone who goes to church.  So they can bring their children up with strong morals.  They’ll start choosing their dates based on these criteria.  Then love can enter the equation.  Which it does.  And it’s often a deeper and more long-lasting love.  Because attraction is based on all of these things.  Not just physical appearance.

This decision is important to be a good mom.  Because it will affect the next 20+ years of her life.  And it will affect the lives of her children.  So she has to weigh a lot of things in making this decision.  Like a CEO’s vetting process choosing his or her officers.  Because it’s for the long haul.  She’ll work 7 days a week.  And must be available at all times of the day.  Even if she is sick.  Like a CEO.  Only NOT with pay commensurate with her responsibilities.  Unlike a CEO.  And those responsibilities include raising her children.  And managing the household.  While her husband works.  Old school.  Like Paula Cole says.  “I will raise the children if you pay all the bills” (Where have all the Cowboys Gone).

A CEO has a chief financial officer (CFO) to manage the finances.  Mom just wear another hat.  And manages the finances, too.  The husband works.  But he gives his wife the paycheck.  For although his earnings pay the bills, she writes the checks.  And balances the budget.  Which often take a little finesse.  Because there isn’t a lot of money in the beginning.  And raising children and owning a house can be very expensive.  So managing cash-flow becomes a fast learned skill.  Because groceries, school supplies, clothes, utilities, insurance, mortgage and taxes don’t all come due in pay periods equal to the amount of the paycheck.  Which means she has to put a little aside each pay period (like a sinking fund in corporate America) to pay the big things that come due at various times throughout the year.  Or tap her line of credit (i.e., credit card), making cuts in the monthly budget to service the new debt and pay down the high-interest loan as quickly as possible.  Oh, and she cooks and cleans, too.

“Are you wearing Clean Underwear?”

Some may belittle the classical housework of being a mom.  The cooking and cleaning.  But when raising children they can be the most important of her responsibilities.  Of all the animal kingdom, human offspring are the most helpless.  And they’re helpless for the longest time.  It takes 18 years before they leave the nest.  And they’re growing that whole time.  Fueling that growth with three meals a day.  Two if they buy lunch at school during the school year.  This is something a CEO doesn’t have to worry about with employees.  Being accountable for everything they eat or drink.  And not getting them sick in the process for food preparation is a dangerous business.  Especially when working with raw chicken.  So she’s health inspector.  And dietician.  Managing their growth with the family doctor.  Making sure they eat their vegetables.  Drink their milk.  Because it all matters.  To make sure their bones are strong and healthy.  And to have strong immune systems.  For the old maxim is true.  We are what we eat.  Which is a challenge for a mother.  Because kids don’t like eating healthy.  Or being clean, for that matter.

Yes, it’s true.  Mothers want their kids to wear clean underwear. But it’s not just to save them the embarrassment should their child be in an accident where someone may see his or her dirty underwear.  (Well, maybe a little.)  It’s because poor hygiene kills.  And there are few things more unhygienic than pooping.  These are some nasty germs.  They cause outbreaks of cholera when they contaminate drinking water supplies.  And cause E. coli food poisoning when transferred to our food supply (that’s why there are signs in restaurant bathrooms saying that all employees must wash their hands so they don’t kill anyone with their food).  Nasty stuff.  So mothers are fanatical about bathing their kids.  Making sure they wash their hands after using the bathroom.  And that they wear clean underwear.  Also not to pick up food that fell on the floor (that 5-second rule is a dad rule).  Or put things in their mouths that they shouldn’t.  And they’ll keep all their cleaning and plumbing supplies locked up and out of reach of their children.  Their medicines, too.  Because kids like to put things in their mouths.  And will eat or drink anything they find that isn’t a vegetable on a plate.

As protective as she may be, her child will most probably get sick.  Some other kid may sneeze in her child’s face.  Or some other kid may not wash his or her hands after using the bathroom.  Or use a door knob when they have a cold.  Or pass the measles to her child.  Then mother becomes nurse.  Carefully administering medicines.  Emptying barf buckets.  Cleaning her child and the bedding when he or she misses the barf bucket.  All the while cooking and cleaning.  And managing the household. 

Leading by Example

And the responsibilities never end.  There’re good manners to teach.  Honesty.  Morality.  Good behavior.  Inside the home.  And when out of the home.  The mother instructs constantly.  And sets a good example.  Dad, too.  When the kids are around they’ll watch their language.  Because they don’t want their kids to have potty mouths.  And Mom and Dad will treat each other with respect.  Because they want their children to grow up as ladies and gentlemen.  For boys to treat girls with respect.  Not to hit them.  Or objectify them.  And no matter what Mom may have done on spring break when she was in school, she will not do anything now that will set a bad example for her daughter.  Or give ideas to her son.  Like getting girls drunk so they make bad decisions is okay.

This is something moms share with CEOs.  Leading by example.  Because perception in the corporate world can make or break a company.  That’s why they have zero-tolerance policies for bad behavior.  Because a reputation of bad behavior (racist, sexist, hate speech, etc.) will give a corporation bad press that can take years to overcome.  Especially if it’s a high-level manager.  Or an officer.  In fact, it’s worse at that level because of the vetting process.  Like choosing a husband, these people are chosen for the long haul.  And bad behavior in these people reflects poorly on the CEO.  Because he or she chose them.   If your CFO is arrested for tax fraud it shows that you are a poor judge of character.  And have a poor handle on your business operations.  And if you’re CFO is committing tax fraud under your nose, you probably are doing a poor job.  And no doubt the board of directors will be looking for a new CEO.  As one of the best ways to get over a scandal is by cleaning house.

Being a CEO is hard.  So is being a mom.  There’s a lot of on the job training.  Which is more of just figuring things out as you go along.  You learn from your mistakes.  All the while being overworked.  And underpaid.  Working horrible hours.  With little sleep.  On call 24/7.  With no breaks or vacations.  Yes, there may be family vacations.  But Mom will still be working on those vacations.  Same responsibilities.  Just a different setting.  At least the CEO has a staff to handle things while on vacation.  At best a mom gets a quiet bubble bath while the kids are at school.  Or a quiet moment on the toilet.  Safe behind a closed door.  For a few quiet minutes. 

Moms and CEOs have their differences.  But their responsibilities are the same.  A corporation’s success depends on the good decisions of its CEO.  Just as the success of a family depends on the good decisions of Mom.

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