Jane Lynch enjoys Traditional Marriage, files for Divorce and fights to prevent Losing Half of Everything she Owns

Posted by PITHOCRATES - July 14th, 2013

Week in Review

The hardest thing about divorce is the children.  Who gets custody?  Who pays child support.  And who pays alimony?  A woman may give up a career to be a stay-at-home mom.  To raise a family.  Which is more difficult than going to a job 5 days a week.  Because you’re on-call 24/7.  And you’re responsible for more than just numbers on a ledger.  You’re now responsible for human life.  As well as numbers on a ledger.

In a divorce two things don’t change.  Someone still has to raise the children.  And someone still has to pay the bills.  Which is where child support and alimony come in.  So the children don’t suffer more than they have to by seeing their parents split up.  They can still have a full-time parent.  Typically the mother who gave up her career to run a household.  While the father visits occasionally.  And pays the bills.  This is the marriage contract.  And the divorce contract that often replaces the marriage contract.

This is what traditional marriage is.  The legal institution that facilitates the family.  And doesn’t leave the children or their mother out in the cold should the marriage fail.  It protects them.  And provides for them.  So they won’t be disadvantaged in their life because their parents divorced.  Getting the same opportunity to succeed in life as everyone else.  Things that are not issues in same-sex unions.  Because same-sex couples cannot bring new life into the world.  Which eliminates most if not all of the need of a marriage contract.  Yet they want it.  And they are getting married (see Jane Lynch Files For Divorce From Wife Lara Embry by Joyce Chen posted 7/12/2013 on US Weekly).

Just one month after announcing that she and her wife of three years, Dr. Lara Embry, are going their separate ways, Jane Lynch has officially filed for divorce in an L.A. County Court, TMZ reports…

According to the legal documents, the couple did not have a prenup, and will therefore split their marital assets 50/50. The pair have no children together (Embry has two daughters Haden and Chase).

Lynch is also filing to terminate the court’s jurisdiction to award Embry with spousal support, TMZ reports.

And they’re getting divorced.

There is nothing they could not have accomplished with legal contracts other than the marriage contract.  If they had lived happily ever after and wanted to leave their estates to each other they could have stipulated that in their wills.  But no.  They were married.  Now they’re getting divorced.  And Lynch now gets to enjoy a privilege once reserved for traditional marriage.  Spousal support.  Even with couples that brought no new children into the world.  Where both worked and had careers.  But the one with the less-paid career got a taste of a lifestyle the better-paid career afforded.  And now is entitled to continue that lifestyle after the divorce.  Because of the marriage contract.

Unless you’re bringing new children into the world there really is no reason to get married.  And our record high divorce rates would seem to indicate that a lot these people getting married (some more than once) probably shouldn’t have gotten married.  But they did.  And went through great transfers of wealth because of it.  As any rich person who is not quite so rich anymore following a divorce will attest to.  Especially when there are children involved.

Lynch wanted everything traditional marriage offered.  Well, everything but one.  She is fighting not to give half of everything she owns to her ex.  And you can bet the next time she gets married, if there is a next time, there will be a prenup.  Which are no longer the prerogative of foolish rich men marrying women young enough to be their granddaughters.  Today they’re just good business.  Especially when there are great disparities in wealth.  Interestingly, had she not been able to get married she would have had everything she wanted after their breakup.  To happily go their separate ways.  Without losing half of all of her stuff.  Something no doubt weighing heavily on her mind these days.

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FT109: “Liberals attack marriage and motherhood because their narcissism prevents them from doing either well.” -Old Pithy

Posted by PITHOCRATES - March 16th, 2012

Fundamental Truth

The Institution of Marriage is the Original Synergy where the Whole is Greater than the Sum of its Parts

A bird’s life is not an easy one.  They have to suffer through horrible storms.  Struggle to find food during the winter.  Stay on guard at all times lest some cat eats them.  They have to build a nest every spring to lay their eggs in.  And raise their babies.  Find food for them.  Protect them.  Then teach them how to be a bird.  And kick them out of the nest so they learn how to use their wings.  As they fly off into the cruel world to start their own short and hard lives.  Leaving the mothers to do it all over again next year.

It’s not quite the same for humans.  They don’t grow up so fast.  And require a whole lot more nurturing.  For the human baby is about the most helpless of all babies in the animal kingdom.  Requiring far more care and teaching before they can go off on their own.  And live their own lives.  Where the bird takes a few months it takes the human about 18 years.  So raising children is a bit different.  And a bit more involved.  Requiring a lot more effort and work on the part of the parents.

Enter the institution of marriage.  The most basic division of labor.  A man and a woman join in marriage to raise children.  The original synergy.  Where the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.  From the most basic biological level.  (The woman has eggs but cannot create life without fertilization.  A man has fertilization but cannot create life with eggs.)  To financial.  (A woman cannot work when bringing new life into the world.  So the father works to pay the bills and provide a home for the new life.)  To parenting.  (Men and women are different and bring different skills to parenting.  This diversity makes children better adapted to enter the world.)

Liberals are more likely to abort their Babies and Divorce as they are too Competitive and Aggressive to arrest their Alpha Desires

Raising children isn’t easy.  Both mother and father have to make great sacrifices in their personal lives for their children.  And to support each other.  Which means parents have to love their children and each other more than they love themselves.  Which is why narcissists make poor spouses.  And poor parents.  Because they can’t sacrifice enough of their self-love to be a good spouse.  Or a good parent.

Liberals are narcissists.  They believe in big government.  As long as they run it.  Because they think they are smarter than everyone else.  And should tell everyone else how to live their lives.  Atheists tend to be liberals.  (Not all for the followers of Ayn Rand are typically atheists, too.)  Because they refuse to live in a world where there is a higher power than theirs.  Celebrities tend to be liberals because they yearn for the fawning adulation of their fans.  College professors tend to be liberals because they enjoy the fawning veneration of their students.  Artists tend to be liberals for the fawning admiration of their fans.  Women advancing in the corporate or political world tend to be liberals because they love to bask in the self-satisfaction of making it ‘in a man’s world’.  And the accolades that go with it.  Further stroking their already huge egos.  You see, everything a liberal does is to feed their narcissism.  Everything is about them.  And getting married or having kids isn’t.  Which is why they can pursue excellence in all other endeavors but these.

Liberals are alpha males.  In a non-physical, narcissistic way.  Even the women.  Where the liberal feminist wants to be everything a man can be.  Everything is a competition.  To prove that they are better than everyone else.  And to show everyone that they’ve made it.  Especially to those who have bested them earlier in their lives.  From the bullies in school.  To the boys and girls who wouldn’t date them.  To the talented geeks that went on to be entrepreneurial geniuses.  And billionaires.  To the men who have always had the best careers.  And the best stuff.  But now it’s payback time.  Where the expression ‘the best revenge is living well’ really means something.  Which explains why liberals are more likely to abort their babies.  And have their marriages end in divorce.  They are just too competitive and too aggressive to arrest their alpha desires.  To knock that chip off of their shoulders.  To let go of their anger.  Their ambition.  Too consumed with their own existence to share their only love (self-love) with a spouse.  Or a child.  In their all out pursuit of liberal happiness.  Affirmation.  That they do matter.  That they have a purpose.  That they are special.

Liberals think Happily Married Women raising Families are just too Stupid to Know that they should be as Miserable as they Are

Liberals want to get married.  And have children.  But on their terms.  Where it doesn’t interfere with their lives.  Or change them.  Or inconvenience them.  They enter into these arrangements with the idea that they will remain the center of the universe. 

Celebrities are always getting married.  And having children.  Which proves that they like the institution of marriage.  And children.  But their marriages often end in divorce.  And their subsequent custody battles are often ugly.  And aired in public.  Which is why liberals condemn the stay-at-home mother.  Who gives up on being everything she could be.  To be the only thing that liberals can’t be.  Happily married and raising a family. 

And that’s what really bugs them.  They’re happy.  To a liberal this is just not fair.  They’re the ones who should be happy.  Because they matter.  They’re special.  They have the nicer stuff.  And what really gets in their craw is that these happily married women raising families are just too stupid to know that they should be as miserable as they are.

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FUNDAMENTAL TRUTH #15: “Most people would rather hear a pleasant lie than an unpleasant truth.” -Old Pithy.

Posted by PITHOCRATES - May 25th, 2010

“DO THESE JEANS make my ass look big?”  Men don’t like this question.  And when their wife or girlfriend ask it, they know to tread lightly.  Unless the relationship is on the outs.  In which case they may answer with something like, “No, it’s your fat ass that makes those jeans look big.”

If the man cares for the woman.  If he loves her.  If he ever expects to have sex with her again, he’ll say something nice.  No matter how much more of her there is to love back there.  It’s called a white lie.  Normally, we don’t base our relationships on lies.  But when it comes to the butt, though, lies are good.  They spare hurt feelings.  Should a person’s genes not bless them with a heavenly derriere to display in a tight pair of jeans.

White lies don’t hurt people.  In fact, we use them in order not to hurt people.  Such lies don’t have consequences.  And people may know you are lying.  Even expect you to lie.  It shows you care enough to make someone feel better about something you know they’re sensitive about.  Like her big butt.  Or his performance in bed (“Whew, that was the best five minutes of my life.  Really.”).

WHEN YOUR CHILD IS learning a musical instrument, he may make more noise than music.  But you encourage him.  Or her.  You tell them they’re good.  That they’re getting better every day.  And, yes, you would love for them to play in front of your visiting family.  And when they do, the family applauds and tells them they’re good, too.  Your child is encouraged.  And he or she keeps practicing.  A little white lie and no one gets hurt.

Suppose your daughter wants to sing.  She listens to the reigning pop queens and sings along.  Only thing is, she’s tone deaf.  She doesn’t sing well at all.  In fact, when she does sing, you start looking for a hurt cat because you’re sure no human could make such inhuman noise.  But you don’t want to hurt her feelings.  And you’re sure it’s just a passing phase.  So you tell her how wonderful she sounds.  No one gets hurt.  Nothing can go wrong with that, can it?

Well, suppose her school is having a talent show. Anyone can simply walk up to an open mike and do whatever they want.  And she wants to sing.  In front of her friends.  In front of her classmates.  In front of the 2 kids that always tease her.  Now the issue is a little more complex.  Do you tell her the truth about her singing and hurt her feelings.  Or do you let her sing.  And risk the kids laughing at her.  And teasing her about it afterwards?

BUT IT’S NOT just the white lies we want to hear.  Say your husband is staying later and later at work.  You call to see what time to expect him for dinner but there’s no answer.  When he comes home late you tell him you were worried.  You called and there was no answer.  He apologizes for worrying you and says he was with a client.  You’re relieved.

Or you come home from work and your wife isn’t there.  Concerned, you call her and there’s no answer.  When she comes home she says she was at the gym with a friend and left her cell in her gym bag.  You’re relieved.  Then she goes upstairs to shower.  Funny, you think.  She usually showers at the gym.

Learning about infidelity is not easy.  And it’s painful.  You ignore signs as long as you can.  You believe the lies.  You want to.  You need to.  Then you find an earring in the car that isn’t yours.  Or you bump into your wife’s friend who says she misses her now that she quit going to the gym.  Soon, the evidence forces you to face the awful truth.  And it kills you inside.  Divorce.  The children.  It’s just the beginning of so much bad to come.

SO WE LIKE it when people lie to us.  At times.  For the truth can be disagreeable.  Ugly.  Painful.  And we’d rather not have that pain.  No, we’d rather live life in a sitcom where there is always a good laugh and rarely anything bad ever happens. 

Politicians know this.  They know that most people don’t like the harsh realities of life.  So when they need to get elected, they lie to us.  No one wants to pay more taxes.  So the politicians promise that only the rich will pay any new taxes.  But massive government spending requires massive taxation.  And taxing the rich just can’t pay for it all. 

George Herbert Walker Bush promised no new taxes.  He said, “Read my lips.  No new taxes.”  He raised them.  Didn’t want to.  Said he had to.  To balance the budget.  Because he and Congress didn’t want to cut spending.  Same with Bill Clinton.  He promised there would be no middle class tax increase.  But there was.  He said he tried as hard as he could not to but had to.  Again, the spending thing.  No one wants to cut spending.  It doesn’t help win elections.

But we wanted to believe the lie during the campaign.  They promise us everything and say it won’t cost anything.  That’s what we want to hear.  We don’t want to hear the intricacies of monetary and fiscal policy.  That increased taxation dampens economic activity.  Decreases incentive for risk takers.  So they take fewer risks.  Create fewer jobs.  Which increases unemployment.  But we don’t want to hear this.  We just want the free stuff.  Just promise it.  Tell us it’s free.  And we’ll vote for you.

LITTLE WHITE LIES have little consequence.  We say them because we care about someone.  Other lies, though, do.  Big ones.  If we fall for them.  If we believe in an ever-expanding welfare state, we’ll keep voting ourselves the treasury.  Until we’ve emptied it.  And when there’s no more money, we’ll say, well, it was nice while it lasted.  But all good things must come to an end.  Or we’ll riot.

Or we’ll cut spending elsewhere to fund our insatiable appetite for free stuff.  Maybe we won’t build a new aircraft carrier.  Or we’ll close an overseas Air Force base.  Or we’ll reduce the size of our conventional forces.  Because we’ve been lulled into a false sense of security, we may think a large standing army is not necessary anymore.  But it was that large projection of force that gave us that sense of security.  It scared the bad guys.  Because the ability to project force, and the will to do so, will create consequences if the bad guys do act. 

During the dot.com boom of the 1990s, times were good and we got complacent.  During those good times, though, the bad guys hit Americans in a series of attacks (World Trade Center bombing, Tanzanian Embassy bombing, Kenyan Embassy bombing, Khobar Towers bombing, the USS Cole attack).  We didn’t fight back.  We lied to ourselves.  We didn’t want to believe that America was under attack.  Head in the sand, we wanted to continue to enjoy the good times.  This only emboldened our enemies.  They saw that America didn’t have the will to fight back.  So they upped the ante.  And in 2001, they attacked on 9/11.  And that attack was just too great not to awake a slumbering giant.

WE MAY NOT like the unpleasant things in life.  But they are part of life.  And we have to deal with them.  However unpleasant they are.  They are what they are.  No matter how we try to rationalize them away.

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